If it was left totally to my mother, we may not have been able to move her. My dad in his wisdom didn't want her to even be alone for a month after he passed away because she was starting to get very forgetful as far as how to get places driving. And he just really didn't want her to be in a house alone. Not that she was gonna hurt herself but it was just getting harder and harder. But it took two years for us to get her here.
And I hate to say it this way, but I've heard this. Sometimes the kids have to take over because our parents are loved ones as they get older sometimes they lose the ability to make really sound decisions. And again, this is a very emotional decision that you're leaving your home of 30, 40, 50 years where the one you loved and you're moving into your last place.
So the only thing is, it didn't happen but I just worry about people making that decision too late or they don't have the facilities anymore mentally to really making good sound decisions. And my mom, although she didn't lose her facilities, it was just too difficult I think for her to move emotionally, to move outta the home she shared with my father for 34 years. So as far as advice there's times where we really need the support of our loved ones to kind of give us a little bit of push in the back. So I urge family members and loved ones to really be a community watch out for what's best for the person that we're considering moving into assisted care. And that be kind of a group decision and sometimes it'll have to involve more than a little pat on the back.